SPLIT – A BOOK REVIEW
SPLIT: A former nun’s memoir of childhood sexual abuse by a Catholic Priest
“SPLIT”, the true story of a child, a priest and the Catholic church by Mary Dispenza rocked my world for two reasons: first, I attended Catholic schools till I was 18; secondly, I was, like Mary, a victim of child sexual abuse.
But if “SPLIT” rocked my world, it might just turn the worlds of millions of devout Catholics upside down. Those are the followers who still deny, or refuse to believe this could be happening, despite all the reports of childhood abuse by priests, not to mention the Church’s failure to protect innocent children by removing such predators from places where they will still have contact with youngsters.
It is just such a story that Mary Dispenza shares with us in “SPLIT”. Molested…no, let’s use the right word…raped repeatedly by Father Rucker from the age of 7, Mary split in two psychologically. She was well into her 30’s or older when she began to recognize why she was incapable of loving and/or having sexual relationships without feeling shame. When she finally came to grips with what had happened to her at such a young age. and just who had abused her, she barely survived the realization. Only her faith in God and the support of a woman she came to love in every way, helped her go to court and speak out against Father Rucker. In doing so, she brought some measure of justice and peace, not just to herself, but to 30 or more other children abused by Father Rucker.
What makes “SPLIT” an even more engrossing read is the fact that Mary Dispenza became a nun at 18. In some odd, unconscious way, God became her be all and end all. But then, after years serving God as a nun, Mary left the convent. It was there that she had discovered that she was gay. Was that a consequence of the childhood abuse, or just something in her genes? Mary doesn’t address that but, as an absorbing, thinking person’s read, it bears speculation.
I couldn’t put “SPLIT” down. I breathed a sigh of relief at the end in finding Mary had found some measure of peace and forgiveness in her heart after all she went through, both as a child and an adult who lost jobs and almost became penniless because of religious intolerance of sexual preference.
But what I couldn’t help thinking as I closed the book was “is the coverup of sexual abuse by the religious limited to the Catholic Church?” Unfortunately, I think not. The Catholic church is easily singled out because priests are celibate. But I feel sure that such practices, both the abuse and the consequent coverup, are rampant throughout all religious groups and institutions.
Kudos to Mary Dispenza for writing this painful memoir and expose. We need more brave women…and men…like her telling the world how it really is! As I have said in my own talks on sexual abuse, “victims voices are the best weapons against sexual abuse”. Let’s not silence those voices any longer.
The KINDLE VERSION of this engrossing, even sensational book is currently only $1.00 at AMAZON. Grab yourself a copy before the price goes up. Incidentally, this book is also a semi-finalist in the 2015 Amazon Kindle Book Awards. When you read it, you will know why. You’ll also know why I’m such a believer in the value of writing memoir: fiction writers wouldn’t come up with anything more engaging than the truth in SPLIT!